We recognise that anger is a natural part of the range of human emotion. Like all human emotions it needs to be balanced and controlled. Anger drives violent behaviour, usually reactive, but may also be pro-active and manipulative. Violence is the expression of anger. What causes anger? Resentment, hate, fear, insecurity, frustration, revenge, unmet or unrealistic expectations, stereotypes, unfair treatment, privilege. To examine violence we must examine its causes. We must examine and challenge the attitudes, prejudices and expectations that cause anger. We need to learn that if violence in society does not fall, the prison population and the ‘punishment industry’ of the justice and penal system - traditional punishments of retribution and revenge favoured by punitive attitudes of Christianity (in Britain) on which we still rely, does not prevent violence- but continues to create the very conditions in which anger and violence thrive. We need to:-
Society:-
Children
Stop the industrial scale stereotyping of girls and boys to comply with the demands of commerce, the military, and the financial interests of global capitalism e.g. in the media and toy and clothes industries, and fiction and internet games that shape children’s ideas. Both men and women – need to be persuaded that it is in their own self interest to treat each other fairly as having equal rights, if they are not to suffer the effects of relationship and family breakdown. The unhappiness they suffer as individuals and the heartache for their children caused by the resentment and anger that leads to physical violence has to be prepared for and understood.
……..and why nothing will change anytime soon…… 1. People will pay lip service to the above rationale, but until they understand that the inferiority of women and the demands for obedience and subservience to men, is not ‘normal’ and ‘natural’ nothing will change. People, will continue to think that what always was, always will be. Traditional notions of a ‘natural world order’ will prevail – power in strength 2. Because there are so many people (men) who are advantaged by this inequality who are, as result of the compound privilege it gives them, able to recruit those who protect them, many of whom are not so privileged, but who will do so for reward i.e. women collude with sexism. 3. The dominant religions and their believers will not accept the culpability of religious dogma, teaching and practice – some will pay lip service to claims for women’s rights, but more ignore the history and/or excuse it on the grounds of ‘culture’ or ‘misunderstanding’. 4. The secular humanist organisations and journals that are male dominated do not see women’s rights, sexual inequality and violence against women as central secular humanist issues, except to attack the extremes of Islam, even though they see campaigns against homophobia as deserving of support. 5. The humanist organisation will not take up sexism and the attitudes that underpin the inequality of women because a) it would involve criticising and opposing religion b) it involves political ideology and c) it might offend its conservative members and religious apologists in their midst. It would certainly upset the ‘interfaith’ applecart, or bandwagon onto which it has jumped. 6.Similarly, and perhaps saddest of all - many feminists and other progressives who oppose all other forms of prejudice and discrimination, will studiously ignore the role played by religion for fear of offending their religious and conservative members who cannot or will not recognise the evidence of history and current affairs.
Document for discussion at London Feminist Freethinkers Meetup March 2009
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